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Monday, November 27, 2006 Be Warned it's long and I'm bitching!Well this weekend was enough to make a woman completely steril. Thanksgiving day was good, however I hadn't gotten any sleep since Wednesday so when I got up early on Thanksgiving morning to cook I was tired as hell. Friday I didn't get any sleep then either....I actually don't remember doing much of anything of Friday, it's kind of a blur. Saturday had to get up early again, and actually got up to late and was running a half hour behind, which I found out wasn't a big deal. M and I had to get up early because we had to babysit our niece and nephew for the whole day....through the night as well. Everyone was really concerned that Bri my niece would end up FREAKING out per her usual. However I'm convinced that she only freaks out because she gets the attention she wants from it....she's like I was. She earns the title of Little Miss Manipulator like I did at 3. However she was far from a problem. I think a lot of that was due to the fact she got sick...not just like stuffed up sick, but throwing up sick. So let's start from the beginning so you know how it all started. We got to my brother and sister in-law's house around 9:45/10:00. We stood around and talked for about an hour. Kat went over all the details with me about the kids etc. Then we were off to breakfast. We all went to IHOP and it was pretty smooth. Can I just say that I'm thankful for changing tables when the restrooms have one. The restroom at IHOP didn't have one and the counter wasn't big enough so I grabbed paper towels lined the floor and changed Aid on the floor of the bathroom stall....yeah it wasn't perfect but it worked lol! Breakfast went ok. My niece is just as picky if not worse than M when it comes to eating. We ordered her the happy face pancake and she decided she didn't want it, but wanted Uncle M's pancakes instead to which we obliged. This is only typical of what she gets away with. We get back from breakfast and it's clear that Bri is tired and needs to lay down but doesn't want to take a nap. So she lounges around until it's time to go get our nails done. Mind you she's 5, and a princess like me so getting her nails done was a BIG deal. We get there (my mother went along) and she sits patiently in her own chair with the HOT PINK nail polish I brought along for her. She was perfect!! They paint her nails and she's waiting for them to dry. I ask if she wants to sit with me and she shakes her head yes. She walks over and looks at me and says....."I feel like I'm going to throw up!" I say ok let's get a......and there she goes. It goes everywhere! The girls doing my nails are horrified (and some have kids you would think this wouldn't bother them) She threw up a couple times and Ha the girl who always does my pedis stops what she's doing grabbs paper towels and proceeds to clean everything up without any help from anyone else. I would have jumped out of the chair except I had lotion on my feet, and my hands wrapped up. My mom grabbs Bri and holds her while everything is cleaned up. It's apparent that Bri is embarrassed but everyone (Ha, my mother, and myself) are telling her it's ok, dont' worry about it etc. Bri's coloring comes back and she starts to feel better. Her only concern after being cleaned up was that she messed up her thumb nail. So we finish our mani's and pedis. Bri was then in my arms when I ask Ha if she can fix Bri's thumb nail and she of course says it wasn't a problem....this is why I go to her to do my pedis. We tip Ha VERY well and make sure that her manager knows how big of a help she is. We then head for the house. Aid is running around playing with M when we get there. Bri goes to lay down and M and I have some time to lounge around or so we thought. Aid starts fighting his tiredness like the typical 1 year old he is. He won't take a bottle with milk, only will take juice. I finally get him to go to sleep, put him in his crib and it's quiet. Bri gets up and is laying in my lap. M goes to get something to eat for him and I since Bri doesn't want to eat anything.... She looks at me and says that she feels like she's going to throw up.....we rush to the bathroom and there she goes again. This time not nearly as much. I clean her up and she finally asks for something to drink...I gave her water since there wasn't anything else for me to give her except juice and I'm not about to give her something with more surgar. She drinks that and is fine for the rest of the night. We all get to bed around 9:00 and the hell started. Aid woke up about 10:30 and try as we did couldn't get him to sleep in his crib. Now putting him in bed with us wouldn't have been a problem except we had a 5 year old in there because she can't sleep in her own bed because mommy and daddy don't make her. So every 1-2 hours he would wake up and SCREAM, fall asleep in our arms (and he was sound asleep mind you) the second we went to put him in his crib he would SCREAM all over again. Finally we gave up, closed the door, turned the lights off, and let him scream, and scream and scream in his crib. We had tried everything, changing him, giving him a bottle, rocking him to sleep, etc. He just wanted to be held all night which in my eyes doesn't fly! We sat and listened to him scream for over 30mins, and he was still going. Bri never woke up which means this is a typical thing. I finally figured out how to get him to sleep, and we got 3hours worth of sleep and then it was the same routine one more time. Finally we were all up around 8:30am and doing our normal stuff. My brother and sister in-law came home and were talking to us when B my brother in-law made the comment.... B-"There are often nights when Kat will hold him all night just so he'll sleep. It happens all the time. I will just let him scream it out though." Me-"Ok, well that explains things a bit!" I don't bother to go into the whole thing of mixed messages with anyone except myself in my own head. All I can think is Kat has some serious issues with how she spoiles her children and it's going to bite her in the ass. I love Kat and she's a great person but how she handles things with her kids don't work. Her parents have even confronted her with it, and she knows it's a problem, she just refuses to change her routine. I understand every parent has their own ways of parenting, and no one person is right with how children are raised. However a child should not have to be held all night to sleep, because then the parent who has to work the following day can't sleep....when the child can sleep all day if need be. As I stated before I don't agree with a 5 year old sleeping in their bed. Oh and they are allowing my niece to sleep in diapers because she wets the bed....ok pull-ups work, but no my niece insists on diapers because that is what her brother wears. She also will only drink milk and any other liquid from a bottle at home. Do they tell her no because big girls don't do that, or that she needs to set an example for her brother, or just flat out no because mommy and daddy say no, sorry nope, they allow her to do whatever she wants with no reprocussion. They are slowly trying to change how they approach things with Bri because they see how difiant she is with EVERYTHING, however they seem to repeat the same mistakes they made with Bri as a baby with Aid. It seems like a vicious cycle! I seriously want to stop them and make them realize what they're setting themselves up for. However I'm sure we all realize that's not ever going to happen. So I'll stand by, babysit, and never say a word except on here where I can bitch and complain until the cows come home. The one thing this weekend made me realize in abundance was.....one I'm not ready to have kids. For 2 reasons, I'm not ready to give up that much time with M yet, and 2 because I'd probably end up killing someone! Not only that, but I realize that the date night once a week/month is a necessity. We only spent one day with the kids and I felt like it was a week away from M and I'm not willing to give that up yet. I don't know how people make marriages work with kids. I know I'll eventually be willing to find out, but I do realize why so many marriages end after the first child. I'm not willing to be apart of that stastic, and goddes only knows how hell bent I am now on making damn sure children don't add to runing a relationship. ( I know children don't ruin it on their own, it takes 2 people to make and break a relationship. I'm just stating that I'm going to do my best in making sure that it isn't one of the factors.) I hope that M and I are better parents, not perfect because that's not possible, but better parents. I would love to have children, and can't wait to be a mother. I just don't want to be one just yet. This past weekend was great birth control. Ok the bitch fest is over, you may return to your regularly scheduled program lol! |
About Myself
I'm a newlywed who got married on March 15,2008.
I'm currently living at home with my mother, husband,
2 dogs, 3 cats, and 5 tortises. We're saving up for
our first how which we'll hopefully buy soon. I'd
love to start our family, but that like everything
comes in it's own time.
I recently lost my father, and am dealing with his
death the best way I know how. Surrounding myself
with the people I love, and enjoying life like he
would have wanted me to.